The Christmas Season for Idealist Perfectionists

Perfectionism. Is it a blessing? A curse? A disease? For me, during the holidays, it can be simultaneously helpful and disastrous because I want…no I need everything to be perfect.

I’m also an idealist who sees Christmas as an opportunity, a small window of time, where the world comes together and decides to play nice for a change, where kindness and generosity is the norm, not the exception, and where Christmas spirit is a tangible thing. 


Every year, when I find myself in this brief and fleeting moment in time, the idealist part of me tries to take over. I pause the movie reel of life, whirl around to catch the snowflakes frozen in the air, breathe in deeply the smell of fires in fireplaces, listen to the sounds of Christmas music and laughter, and feel the chill in the air melt away as the warmth of hot cocoa or a Christmas latte rushes down my throat and through my veins.


Okay, so most of that is in my head, especially since we don’t get all that much snow in Oklahoma. But I like to think of it that way.

It’s a time where we idealist perfectionists want to relax and revel in the Christmas spirit, but we also very desperately want to milk the season for everything it’s worth by squeezing in as many Christmas outings, events, parties, get-togethers, and fun for the kids as we possibly can. Which tends to make the relaxing and reveling a bit difficult. If not impossible.

So, is there a happy medium somewhere? Is it possible to get the most out of the Christmas season without sacrificing the Christmas spirit? If so, how do we do it?


We plan Christmas fun, but we stay open for spontaneous changes.

We fill the schedule with Christmas events, but we save time to soak up the Christmas spirit.

We spend time with friends and co-workers, but we enjoy time with family the most.

We shop and buy gifts for loved ones, but we don’t get consumed with finding perfect gifts.

And we try our best to slow our pace and enjoy the season, but we don’t beat ourselves up when life makes us rush.

Enjoy the flow of the Christmas season. Just take time to hop out of the river every once in a while to breathe, refresh, and focus. If we’re not careful, we’ll get lost in the overwhelming, rushing flood of consumerism. Instead of getting lost in the fluid music of Christmas that is the salve to our jaded souls.



~ by Dusty Crabtree - Author of Shadow Eyes on November 25, 2016.

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